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Diversity Training for Spiritual Leaders and Coaches

Dear Ones,

I, like you, am so sickened by the events that have transpired in the U.S. over these last few days. I'm embarrassed and ashamed of our president's response to these events and I'm heartened and lifted by your responses all over social media and your own blogs: resistance. love. peace.

The U.S., and the world, is in a time of transition. As we move from dark to light, the twilight slowly unveils the boogey men that have been hiding in the dark all along. Institutionalized racism. Bigotry. Greed. Lust. Hate.

It's ugly.

I grew up half Native and half white. Always with one foot in one world, one foot in another world, and one hand desperately reaching for the world that had been systematically taken away from me beginning with my grandmother and her years in an Indian boarding school. "Kill the Indian, save the man." I wrote about my lineage here.

In a crowd of brown people, I am mostly white-passing (I pass for a white person). In a crowd of white people, I mostly get asked "What are you?" (because THAT'S a tactful question). I haven't experienced direct racism, but I've accidentally witnessed or overheard it when someone forgot about my lineage. This is an odd feeling-- survivor's guilt?-- of not looking the part enough to get included in the shit. But I know lots of stories about my mother and my grandmother and the racism they experienced. My mother's cat was killed and staked to a fence because it was her cat. When my white grandfather died, his white family came and took everything from my Native grandmother and her-- their-- four children. One of my mother's half-sisters called to apologize a few years ago . . . before asking my mother if she had been saved by Jesus.

It was this insider/outsider and outsider/insider status that led me to pursue a Master's Degree in Intercultural Communication at the University of New Mexico. I studied how we shape, reinforce and pass along our culture identities through communication and through cultural syncreticism. I learned about racism and resistance and resilience. I learned how cultures thrive in spite of systemic genocide. I learned how different people from different cultures can communicate with other people from other cultures in a way that creates harmony and understanding versus discord and chaos.

I learned it all.

And it helped me understand myself and my experience of myself a lot.

But, almost seven years later, I've kept all of this wisdom to myself. I haven't shared it. I haven't helped other women of color or other women of mixed color understand their culture within the dominant white culture. I haven't helped white women understand and communicate with their sisters of color.

I'm changing that.

If you're interested in marrying your coaching or healing practice with sacred and social activism, if you want to learn more about white privilege or how to navigate your own culture within the dominate culture, click here to learn more and to sign up for the first of many virtual panel discussions and training events.

I hope to see you there.

In love and sacred activism,

Darla Antoine
 

My Number One Self & Spiritual Care Tip

When I had my first son, Cuen, in 2012, I had a 30+ hour labor, 4+ hours of pushing, an emergency c-section and then my little baby went through his first six weeks of life rarely sleeping and always crying. I. WAS. EXHAUSTED. I also had gained 60 pounds without even trying and felt isolated and uncomfortable in my stretched out body.

We eventually figured out that my breast milk production was low and began supplementing with formula. All of a sudden our little babe began to sleep and giggle and so did I. As I caught up on more sleep I began losing those 60 pounds. By his first birthday I was happy, healthy, emotionally stable and . . . pregnant again.

Again?!?! I was just beginning to feel like I was standing on solid ground after my first birth experience and pregnancy and now I had to do it all again.

This time, however, I was prepared: I was going to exercise more and eat healthier to avoid the excessive weight gain. I was going to plan a c-section to avoid the trauma and exhaustion of not being able to push out my baby (I was not a good VBAC candidate), and I was going to start pumping immediately to avoid half-starving my little babe.

I had all of these plans for self-care planned out-- and believe me, I followed through. I exercised more. Ate even healthier. I planned that c-section. I started pumping on Day 3 after birth.

And guess what?

I gained the 60 pounds anyway.

I was still a bit traumatized by the c-section experience (surgery is a BIG DEAL) and by how the hospital treated me (I couldn't hold or see my baby until I got the feeling back in my LEGS. WTF? I had just been cut in half. I wasn't going to walk away. And I certainly wasn't going to be holding him with my legs. He was two hours old before I got see or hold him. Hmmph.)

I still had low breast milk production and stopped breastfeeding at 3 weeks.

Nothing turned out the way I wanted it to, despite my best self-care efforts.

But you know what? My self-care efforts were STILL a success.

I was better equipped to heal from the c-section because my body was in great shape and good health, despite a 60 pound weight gain. I slept better and recovered faster because I didn't push myself to "try" to have a natural birth despite the trauma of my first attempt. I gave breastfeeding my best shot but I gave myself permission to stop once it became obvious that my production was actually decreasing. I also gave myself permission to never feel guilty about it -- And I haven't wasted a single moment feeling guilty about it either.

My number one self and spiritual care tip is: Know Thyself.

These words are written on an ancient stone where the Greek Oracle of Delphi gave her oracular messages. These words are the driving force behind today's modern scene of personal development and self-actualization.

But I don't mean to sound trite. When you know yourself, you know when to surrender. You know when to stop. You know what move to make next or you know not to move. More importantly, when you know yourself, you know you can't give a f*ck about what other people think they know. When you don't give a f*ck about what other people think, you don't experience any shame or guilt about your decisions either. When you don't take on shame and guilt you are enacting self-care. And around and around this vivacious cycle goes.

"Know Thyself" is also the driving force behind everything I do here at The Copper Scarab, especially when it comes to dreamwork. It's why I created a dream journal and magical journaling process. It's why I have a course on dreams. It's why I offer mentoring on dreamwork. NOTHING can give us more insight into ourselves and our own psyche the way dreams can. Nothing.

Are you ready to Know Thyself?

In love and sacred darkness,

 

The Number One Way To Increase Your Intuition

I began mentoring privately with intuitive counselors almost a decade ago. Of all of the ways I've learned to access higher guidance and increase the clarity around those messages, one tip has by far been the most effective and practical:

Keep an intuitive journal.

The idea is simple. Have a notebook dedicated to recording all of the ways you interact with your intuition. Did you pray for guidance on something? Write it down and date it. Did a strange synchronicity occur? Write it down and date it. Did you pull a tarot card about The Thing and now you've decided to do this not that?

Yep. Write it down and date it.

Then get in the habit of reviewing this journal regularly. Say-- every Sunday. Pretty quickly you will start to notice patterns and repeated intuitive events that were all pointing towards an action or a solution. This is beneficial for three reasons:

1: If you hadn't been keeping track it would have been super easy and super probable that you wouldn't have noticed the several ways your intuition was coming to your aid. You might have even dismissed all the signs altogether.

2: You now have concrete proof that your intuition exists and is working to conspire in your favor. Proof. It is so much easier for your brain to surrender to something that has some sort of form or substance. By writing down your intuitive hits, synchronicities, signs and other magical occurrences, you've given form to the formless. Your brain is now a more willing participant in this whole "letting go and letting God" business.

3. You also have a better idea on how exactly you receive intuitive/divine guidance. Is it a song lyric in your head? Quirky license plate messages? A feather on the ground? A strong gut instinct? All of the above? Something different and wackier? Whatever it is, you'll now be able to recognize it more clearly when it's in front of you and you'll be primed to trust it.

If you want to amplify your intuition, receive more divine guidance and clarity in your life, my recommendation is simple: Keep and intuitive journal.

 


I've taken this concept a step further and included dream messages (when we dream we are in the same brain state as life long deep meditators and we're literally halfway between this world and the next. Divine guidance is so easy to receive in dreams) and moon/womb cycles-- all of which affect each individual woman's intuition differently.

The latest version of my dream, divination and lunar intuitive journal, DIVINA, is now available. Order it and get started on your own intuitive journaling practice right away! All of the journaling prompts for each day are already laid out for you. In addition, part one of the journal is a 22 page how-to that dives deeper into the whys and how of keeping an intuitive journal.

 

If receiving divine guidance while you sleep is something that sounds pretty darn cool to you (it is!) but you have a hard time remembering your dreams, you don't know where to even begin trying to interpret them, or you want to know how to dream intentionally, this course is for you.

Four modules with several PDF/audio lessons in each module: Recalling and Re-entering Dreams, Dream Interpretation Techniques, The Ancient Art of Dream Incubation plus Dreamwork For Kids and How To Work With Nightmares.

 

Finally, if you're more of a high-touch person, want to deepen into your dream practice with more speed and agility, or want to focus on advanced dreamwork practices such as dream walking, lucid dreaming or astral travel, a 1:1 Dreamwork Intensive Mentorship may be the choice for you.

 

And if you know anyone who is a strong dreamer, wishes they were, or who is trying to amplify their intuition/see more magic around themselves, please forward this article to them!

 

In love and sacred darkness,